A good compliment is the best way to show her you’re interested without coming across as needy or desperate.
A great compliment will make her feel butterflies inside and make her be even more attracted to you.
She’ll even begin showing more interest in you and be warmer and more open around you if you compliment her the right way.
What Makes A Great Compliment
A good compliment is:
- Honest & Genuine
- Simple, Short and Direct
- Something You Like About Her:
About her looks, personality, her character, mindset, sense of fashion, or the way she does or says something, her voice, accent, etc.. - Something You Notice About Her (That Makes Her Stand Out From Other Girls): This could be: her super positive attitude; her passion for life; her fun, bubbly personality; her dream to travel the world or be a photographer; etc. This makes the compliment feel special, and will give her butterflies.
- Includes words like “I like”, “I love”, which come across with a happy, passionate energy and genuine.
Let’s go into more depth:
Honest & Genuine
An honest compliment always feels more powerful than fake flattery.
While woman might still react positively with “Thank You” or a small smile to fake flattery, women can easily tell if you don’t mean what you say from your voice tone and eye contact (liars often avoid eye contact).
If you don’t mean what you say, woman might think you have a hidden agenda and distrust you.
This closes any opportunity to build a genuine connection with each other and potentially date further down the line.
Instead, be honest, and look her in the eyes when you compliment her.
Honesty and eye contact builds trust, and a deep genuine connection. Always mean what you say, and you’re one step closer to giving her butterflies.
Simple and Direct
Keep it short, simple and to the point.
You’re not giving a 5 minute Oscar winning speech or writing the next greatest novel — you’re giving her a simple compliment.
A few words, to 1 or 2 sentences are enough.
If your compliments is:
- Too Long: She’ll lose focus and the compliment will have no power.
- Too Complicated: It will seem like you’re trying hard to impress her and will make her lose interest fast.
- Not On Point and Rambling: You will come across as undecided, like you don’t know what you want to do or say.
This turns woman off. Woman are turned on by decisive men who know what they want to do and say.
Let’s go through some examples.
Simple and Direct Compliment (Do This 
):
- “You look gorgeous” or “You look cute” or “You’re beautiful” or even “You’re the prettiest girl I’ve seen all day”
- “I love your passion and energy, it’s refreshing” or
- “I like your energy, you’re really positive and outgoing” or
- “When you talk you’re so passionate. I like that”
Overtly Long Compliment (Don’t Do
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- “I think you look so absolutely gorgeous you are the most beautiful girl in the world I have ever seen, etc…”
- “I love your passionate energy and passion when you talk, you have so much passion and happiness and so much positive energy, I really like you, you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me, I can’t believe you’re real, etc…”
Based on Something You Like About Her
This goes back to honesty — a compliment based on something you truly like about her comes across more honest and unique — and will feel more special.
It will make your compliments more memorable and unique.
And you will avoid over complimenting and coming across as needy.
The compliment can be about anything you like about her, from her looks, personality, character, mindset, her sense of fashion, all the way to the way she does or says something, her voice, accent, etc…
Hint: Try using positive words like “I love” and “I like” in your compliments, these will make your compliments feel more powerful and give her butterflies.
Examples:
- “I love the way you smile when you laugh, it’s really cute”
- “I love the way you talk — it’s so feminine and elegant”
- “I like your accent — it’s really cute and feminine”
- “I like your vibe, you come across as really open minded and adventurous.”
- “I love your passion and energy, it’s really refreshing. I love passionate people”
- “I love your passion and energy, it’s really refreshing. I love passionate people. Too many people are so dull and passionless. Life is about having fun and doing what you love”
- “Hey[Pause], I love your green dress [Pause] it really brings out your eyes”
- “I love your hair style, it looks really cute on you”
What To Say (Examples of Great Compliments)
Basic Compliments
Here are some examples of great basic compliments you can use with a woman you know:
- “You look gorgeous today”
- “I love what you’ve done with your hair today [Pause] it looks gorgeous on you”
- “I love your red jacket [Pause] it looks stylish on you and makes you stand out”
- “I love your outfit [Pause] you have an amazing sense of style”
- “I like your necklace [Pause] it looks really good on you”
- “I love your sense of style [Pause] You’re really fashionable”
- “I love your personality [Pause] You’re very bubbly and outgoing [Pause] I like that”
- “I love your passion [Pause] You’re so passionate and positive [Pause] I like it when a woman is passionate.
The last two examples have a qualifier “I like that” — which communicate to her you like her and she meets your standards.
Overall, speaking with pauses as you compliment is key — as it makes your words more powerful and important, but also creates that sensual tension and sexy vibe needed for seduction.
Compliments are also great openers to start a conversation with women you don’t know but would like to meet.
For example, when you’re walking down the street and spot a gorgeous woman walking your way, or when you’re at the coffee shop, etc..
Here are some great examples of compliment openers:
- “Hey [Pause], you look cute/gorgeous”
- “Hey [Pause], I just saw you, I thought you looked absolutely gorgeous”
- “Hey[Pause], I love your outfit, you have an amazing sense of style”
- “Hey [Pause] I like your jacket, yellow really suits you”
- “Hey [Pause] I love your hat, it makes you stand out”
The Pause is essential — first we must get her attention, then deliver the compliment.
Intermediate Compliments
We can go even deeper and develop compliments further:
Cold Reads: Compliment Her And Make an Assumption About Her
Making interesting assumptions about her can easily make the conversation more interesting and make your connection stronger.
Pair your compliment with an assumption. For example:
- “Hey [Pause], I love your green jacket[Pause] it makes you stand out from the crowd[Pause] The fact you’re wearing bright colours shows you’re a happy & outgoing girl who’s not afraid to stand out — I like that” (Cold Read & Qualifying)
Again, pausing for effect, to make the compliment have more impact.
We’re making a positive assumption about her — that she’s “happy, outgoing, and not afraid to stand out”, and then qualifying her — saying we like that about her. This instantly adds depth to the conversation, leads to deeper conversation, and will make her feel good around you.
More examples:
- “I love your passion and energy [Pause] it shows you’re an adventurous girl who loves life and likes having fun. I like that”
- “I like how you’re so open minded and non judgemental. [Pause] It’s refreshing [Pause] and it shows you’re a smart girl with a big heart.”
- “I love your voice, it’s so calm and gentle[Pause] it gives me the vibe that you’re a really genuine, warm and caring girl.”
- “I love the way you talk with your parents [Pause] It shows you have a strong bond with them and are close with each other.”
- “I like how you’re there for Janette while she’s going through a tough time [Pause] It shows you’re a real friend who’s there when her friends need her most.”
- “I like your accent [Pause] It sounds cute, you must be Russian” or whatever country her accent sounds like
Notice that all we’re doing is saying a compliment, and making a positive assumption about her personality, and what kind of person she is. In the last example, we’re even guessing where she’s from.
But the impact it has on her is powerful.
If right, using assumptions will give her the impression that you “get her” as a person. Immediately, it will strengthen your connection with her and give her butterflies. She will be even more attracted and interested in you than before. And you will stand out from the crowd even more.
Even if your assumptions are not correct, they will take your connection with her and conversation to the next level.
Furthermore, whatever positive assumptions you make about her, she will start acting more in line with your assumption of her.
For example, if you assume she’s an adventurous and open minded girl who likes having fun, she will act more adventurous and be more open to trying new things with you — a.k.a making out or hooking up with you on the first date or 1 hour after you just met (or anything else that’s adventurous/open minded).
Point Out Attention To Detail
Women love it when you notice the little things.
Make sure you say how it’s cute (like she’s trying to impress us).
For example she’s wearing red shoes and has matching red lipstick:
- You:“Hey[Pause], I love your red shoes”
Her: “Thank you”,
You:“It’s really cute how you matched it with your lipstick”. - Or, you can say it all at once: “Hey[Pause], I love your red shoes. It’s really cute how you matched it with your lipstick”
Woman go nuts for these kind of compliments — because these are things ONLY woman notice. Doing this instantly makes you stand out from the crowd.
She will think “Who is this guy!? He’s so different. I need to get to know him.” and invest all her time and energy trying to figure out how you’re different, and why you’re so charming.
Compliment and Ask Question
You can ask a question related to your compliment — to develop the conversation further, and push the connection further.
You: “I love your green hat [Pause] It looks exotic and cute on you [Pause] Where did you get it from?”
Her: “Thank you…I got it from holiday in Spain…”
And then you continue the conversation.
Push/Pull
The classic Push Pull method. Simply deliver a compliment, and follow it up with a neg or push(a reason why you can’t be together, why she’s not your type, etc…). For example:
- ”You are the coolest girl I’ve met…in the last 5 minutes”
- ”You have beautiful eyes… They are almost as pretty as mine”
- ”We would never get along, we’ve got so much in common”
- ”If I was into brunettes, I would be all over you”
We offer a pull, the compliment , “You’re the coolest girl I’ve met”, “You have beautiful eyes”, “We’ve got so much in common” and”I would be all over you”.
And we follow it up with a push: “In the last 5 minutes”, “They’re almost as pretty as mine”,”We would never get along” and “If I was into brunettes”.
These work very well if you have rock solid fundamentals, good body language and are insanely confident. Don’t use push pull if you’re lacking in the confidence department though.
Read Next: Push/Pull Examples and Techniques
If you’re not really the cocky type or you feel this doesn’t match your personality, you don’t have to use it.
How To Deliver A Compliment
How you deliver a compliment is just as important as the compliment itself.
The key is to focus on good fundamentals and body language.
Never rush the compliment. Say it nice and slow but clearly. Use small pauses.
Say it with confidence. Own it when you say. Believe in what you’re saying.
Always look her in the eyes while you say it. The eye contact creates a stronger connection between you two, and she’ll feel electric butterflies.
Eye contact also makes the compliment feel honest and genuine.
Make sure she has your full attention (she’s looking at you) when you deliver a compliment .Never compliment a girl if she’s looking away. The lack of eye contact takes away the emotional impact of the compliment.
Doing these things will make your compliment feel more powerful, and make it have an emotional impact on her. It’s what’s going to give her butterflies.
Read More: How To Develop Attractive Body Language
Say It With Confidence
Say it with confidence. Own it when you say. Believe in what you’re saying.
Have good posture while you say it, say it clearly and proudly, and look her in the eyes. Smile. Never mumble or look at the ground.
Do this and you’ll come across as insanely confident. And woman love that.
Read More: How To Develop Confidence And Be More Confident
Being genuine and honest with your compliments also makes it easier to be confident. Why?
That’s why making your compliment something honest works — because it’s something you know you like about her.
You’re going to 100% believe in it when you’re saying it — so you’ll deliver it with much more confidence than if it was some random line or script you saw on a Youtube video.
There’s nothing wrong with pick up lines.
But only say them if you mean them and it’s what you truly want to say.
Don’t do it just because you saw someone else do it.
Do it because YOU WANT to do it. Do things that are congruent with you.
If it’s not in line with your personality or it doesn’t fit the situation, I would avoid using pick up lines. Only use pick up lines if they (1) match your personality and (2) are appropriate for the situation.
In truth, running off scripts and lines that don’t match your personality can come across as fake and robotic — and we don’t want that.
We want to come across as genuine and confident — and being genuine is the easiest way to be confident, because you’re being yourself.
Read More: How To Develop Bulletproof Confidence And Be More Confident (Coming Soon)
Never Rush The Compliment
Not rushing when you talk and saying things at your own pace shows you’re feeling comfortable, calm and in control. Women find that attractive.
It also shows you value yourself and what you have to say.
Rushing makes it look like you’re nervous, uncomfortable and not in control. Women don’t find this attractive, it turns them off.
Rushing and talking fast also give off an anxious vibe, and will make her feel anxious around us. Instead, you want to give a comfortable vibe to make her feel comfortable and at ease around you. We do this by talking at a slower pace and not rushing when we talk.
A big one: Rushing in general makes it come across as if you don’t value yourself and feel you aren’t worthy of her “time” — that’s why you’re trying to make it quick, because you don’t want to “bother” her or “waste” her time. It’s a white knight move.
Rushing puts her on a pedestal — like saying she’s more important than you — which you want to avoid (unless you want her to lose respect for you and put you in the friend zone).
Obviously, if you rush one sentence that’s not going to happen.
But if you’re always rushing everything you say — it will come across like you don’t think you’re worthy of her “time” or “important” enough for her — and her respect will go down for you and you’ll put yourself in the F zone.
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Saying it nice and slow communicates you view yourself as high value, and are in control. It also makes it easier for you to know what you’re going to say next — as you have more time to think.
You can use small 1 to 2 second pauses as well, when you deliver the compliment (you should use them naturally when you talk, to keep the listener hooked).
If you’re meeting a woman for the first time and using a compliment to start the conversation, pauses are even more crucial, to get her attention.
If you just deliver the compliment without getting her attention — it won’t work. You need to make sure she’s paying full attention to you first, before you deliver your compliment.
For Example:
- “Hey [Pause], I just saw you [Small Pause] I thought you looked absolutely gorgeous”
- “Hey [Pause] I love your hat [Small Pause] it makes you stand out”
- “Hey[Pause], I love your blue dress [Pause] it really brings out your eyes”
I remember almost 10 years ago when I was 14, I passed by a girl I liked, and told myself I need to talk to her (I had enough of passing by and not saying hi).
I went to compliment her from behind (she didn’t even see me).
She didn’t even understand what I was saying. I was embarrassed and nervous, but I told her again once she turned around.
And then we all laughed awkwardly.
Needless to say, you need to make sure she sees you as you walk up to her to deliver your compliment. If she’s on the phone, or whatever she’s doing, get her attention first, then deliver the compliment.
Great Eye Contact
If you look away while you deliver the compliment — it’s not going to give her that special warm fuzzy feeling.
It’s when you look at her and gaze into her eyes while you tell her the compliment that the feeling and emotion will come across — and make the compliment feel more special and powerful emotionally.
Plus, making eye contact makes you come across as confident.
Avoiding eye contact and looking away, especially when it’s something important you want to say (which is pretty much everything — everything you say is important, especially a compliment) shows you don’t believe in it and don’t think it’s important.
Looking at the ground also makes you come across as nervous and like you don’t believe in yourself.
That’s why eye contact is key — it makes you come across as confident, and makes the compliment have an emotional impact that gives her butterflies.
Read More: How To Develop Sexy And Confident Eye Contact
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How To Get Good At Giving Compliments Fast
Three things I highly recommend to get good at giving compliments fast.
One: practice looking at people and thinking what you genuinely like about their style & their outfit — and what you can tell about their personality based from their style.
Doing this while you wait for the train, at the bus stop, while in line at the coffee shop, etc…is easy, and will give you the ability to come up with many compliments you can tell a girl in seconds.
Two: practice giving compliments in the mirror
Mirror practice is the easiest way to improve how you deliver you compliments and work on your dating and social skills and speaking skills in general.
Three: Give compliments daily.
The more compliments you give, the better you will get at giving them.
Practice giving compliments daily when talking to your friends, women you like and your loved ones — and you’ll get better at giving compliments in no time.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: When should I compliment her?
Answer: You can compliment her at any time in the conversation. You can even compliment her to start the conversation. This is called an opener.
Read More: Best Openers To Start A Conversation With Any Woman You Want (Coming Soon)
Q:How Do I Compliment her if I feel shy, nervous or afraid?
Answer:
If you feel shy, just take a deep breath, and say the compliment slowly.
The deep breath, and talking slower will make you feel calm and at ease.
If you feel shy, nervous or afraid, it’s also probably because you’re afraid she might reject you or not react well if you compliment her.
However, we’re not complimenting her to get her reaction or her approval.
We’re complimenting her simply because we want to compliment her and say something positive about her.
We are simply expressing ourselves.
We’re also expressing slight interest in her, so she gets the idea we want to be more than friends, but in a cool, suave, effortless way.
Regardless, if you follow the advice in this guide to the T, she will respond well to your compliments.
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Q: Why Should I Keep Compliments Short, Simple and To The Point?
Answer:
1.Keep It Short
If you’re compliment is way too long, she’ll lose focus and tune out while you say it. The compliment will lose all impact.
On the other hand, a short and sweet compliment feels powerful, and will leave her wanting more.
2.Keep It Simple
Super long complicated compliments might also give her the idea you’re obsessed about her (in entirely the wrong way).
This will push her away and make her lose interest fast (because she feels she has you in the palm of your hands).
Instead, keep it short and simple, and she’ll know you’re interested in her.
But she won’t know how interested you are in her — which will keep her guessing, and make her more attracted to you.
It will also get her investing more time and energy into you and the conversation (really good).
3.Keep It On Point
Not keeping to the point (and rambling) makes you come across like: you don’t know what what you want to say, what you’re doing or
why you’re doing it.
It makes you come across as undecided — which is not attractive.
Instead, we want to come across as decisive men who know what they want to do and say. Women find this very attractive.
Q:Can I compliment her in front of her friends?
Answer: Yes you can.
If you have good body language, rock solid fundamentals, and a good sense of style, you can pull of any kind of compliment with a woman (even in front of her friends).
Read More: How To Develop Sexy Body Language And Rock Solid Fundamentals (That Makes Woman Go Nuts)
However at nightclubs, unless your fundamentals are on point, I would avoid any compliments that are super direct and out there that show a lot of interest (especially if you just met her and her friends).
Avoid compliments like:
- “You’re the sexiest woman I’ve seen all day” or
- “You have the most gorgeous pair of legs”
if you barely just met her and her friends.
Why?
Because there’s a high chance her friends might cock block you, even if their girlfriend likes you.
Especially if they’re the jealous type or they don’t like 1 small thing about you.
Instead, opt for more subtle compliments like:“I love your hair, it looks cute”, “I like your red dress, red suits you/red looks good on you” or “I like your smile, it’s so real and genuine/it’s so cute”.
Playing it safe initially will help you avoid getting cock blocked and putting her friends on guard against you.
Read More: How To Stop Getting Cock Blocked (Coming Soon)
However, if you have rock solid fundamentals, good body language, and good sense of style, you can pull off any kind of compliment even if her friends are around. Even super direct compliments.
However, you can use more direct compliments if you whisper them into her ear, or once you know for sure her friends are cool with you and her hanging out and ship you guys, or once her friends are gone.
You can also use more direct compliments while you’re escalating physically (and obviously, her friends are not around).
Summary
All in all, we’ve learnt how to compliment a girl the right way.
A good compliment is:
- Honest & Genuine
- Simple, Short and Direct
- Something You Like About Her: About her looks, personality, her character, mindset, sense of fashion, or the way she does or says something, her voice, accent, etc..
- Something You Notice About Her (That Makes Her Stand Out From Other Girls): This could be: her super positive attitude; her passion for life; her fun, bubbly personality; her dream to travel the world or be a photographer; etc. This makes the compliment feel special, and will give her butterflies.
- Includes words like “I like”, “I love”, which come across with a happy, passionate energy and genuine.
We’ve also learnt how to deliver a compliment:
- Say it with confidence. Own it when you say. Believe in what you’re saying.
- Never rush the compliment. Say it nice and slow and clearly. Use small pauses.
- And have great, confident eye contact with her while you say it.
We’ve also at basic and beginner examples of compliments:
- “You look gorgeous”
- “I love your passion [Pause] You’re so passionate and positive”
- “I love your red jacket [Pause] it looks stylish on you and makes you stand out”
As well as more intermediate examples, where we add:
- Cold Read (make assumptions)
- Pay attention to detail
- Ask question after compliment
Giving girls compliments is not rocket science, but using these guide lines guarantees good genuine compliments that will give her butterflies, ever time.
Use these tips my man, and let me know how it goes.
