She Follows Your Lead and Gives You Compliance⁠

Women Who Follow Your Lead Are Interested

 

Women who follow your lead are interested.

If you develop the habit of getting woman to follow your lead and do things for you, like telling her: ⁠

• “Could you hold my drink for a second”,⁠
• “Can I see your bracelet, it looks interesting” ⁠
• “Let’s move to the side over here”,⁠
• “Let’s sit down here”⁠
• “Let’s go over here”⁠
• Physically, if you go in for a hug, she goes gives you a hug, etc…

You will know if she’s interested IF she follows your lead and gives you compliance (she does what you ask of her to do).

You know hands down she’s into you.

Especially if she’s committing to doing BIG things with you⁠ that require a lot of effort (like changing venue or going somewhere else).⁠

The BIGGER the EFFORT  and ENERGY she’s INVESTING into YOU = The MORE she LIKES you

Even if she’s not showing all the indicators of interest and:

• She doesn’t seem interested
• She’s not explicit about her interest
  (She’s not making it OBVIOUS she likes you)

You will always know if she LIKES you if:

• She FOLLOWS YOUR LEAD,
• She gives you COMPLIANCE and INVESTS effort, time and energy into you.

Only women who are into you⁠, will follow your lead and do things for you⁠.

If she’s:

• NOT following your lead⁠ or
• NOT doing even the smallest things for you⁠ (giving you basic compliance)
• And she’s INVESTING zero to MINIMAL effort into you

She’s not interested. 

Respect your time and move on…⁠

Start meeting and talk with new woman, who are into you…

She Acts Submissive And Feminine Around You

When a girl likes you, she will:

• Act super feminine and submissive around you, fulfilling her feminine role,
• While letting you fulfil your masculine role – to be the leader, make decisions and take the lead.

Girls who like you will also talk in a softer, higher pitched voice. Often in a seeking rapport voice tone.

Even tomboys or women who aren’t super girly will do their best to be more feminine and act submissive around a you – 

To to let you fulfil your masculine role and take the lead, while she fulfils her feminine role.

If she’s not interest in you, she will:

• Act Less Feminine
• Act Purely Platonic
• Talk In A Deeper Voice, Using  A Neutral Voice Tone or Breaking Rapport Voice Tone
• Act More Assertive And Try Take The Lead – Fulfilling the masculine role instead of her feminine role (trying to be in charge and make the decisions for both of you – a.k.a friendzone you)
• She won’t follow your lead
• She won’t give you compliance

If she’s not interested in you, she won’t let you be the man and fulfil your masculine role to take the lead.

She won’t give you any compliance.

Even super feminine women will do this, if they’re NOT interested.

She Has Open Body Language

Her Body Is Facing Towards You, Not Away From You

This is a very big indicator of interest. 

If a girl doesn’t enjoy talking to a guy, her body language will be closed:

• Think crossed arms or crossed legs, and
• Her body won’t be facing him directly.

Her body will be more at a slight angle away from him, but not completely away.

Example: If a woman doesn’t want to talk to a guy at the night club, she’ll turn her body away from him, so that her back is facing him, and give him the cold shoulder. 

This way, she shuts him down without even saying a word. She just threw him under the bus, effortlessly. 

But if a girl likes you, she will have:

• Open Body Language
• Her body will be facing towards you.

The more interested she is, the more directly her body will be facing you.

If she’s facing you directly face to face, she’s way more interested in you than a girl who’s slightly facing towards you.

In this situation, you need to keep progressing the interaction further and escalate.

Even if her arms are crossed, if she’s facing towards you (with her feet pointing towards you) it’s a good sign.

If she’s sitting down, if her legs are pointing towards you, she’s interested. 

Proximity

She Tries To Be In Your Personal Space

Women who like you will try to be in your personal space, when:

• You’re talking to her, and
• Even if you haven’t met her yet.

When You’re Talking To Her

If  she’s up close in your personal space when you’re flirting with her, she feels comfortable around you and is attracted to you.

Any women that likes you will want to be in your personal space.

Either:

• She will get inside your personal space (she’s very interested), or
• She’ll be comfortable if you close the distance between you and her and move closer towards her.

If a girl is avoiding being in your personal space and only stays outside it, it means she either:

• Doesn’t want to be anything more than friends
• She’s just being polite and isn’t interested or
• She doesn’t feel comfortable around you yet, because:
  • • She’s shy
    • She just met you
    • She doesn’t trust your intentions
    • She doesn’t know what your intentions are (so she has her guard up because she doesn’t know)

If she doesn’t feel comfortable around you yet, focus on building comfort, by:

• Being honest about your intentions –
  You can say something like “I’m talking with you because I think you look gorgeous and want to get to know you better”
• Telling her more about yourself and letting her get to know you a bit more (so that you’re not a total stranger to her) and 
• Moving things at a slower pace

If she still doesn’t feel comfortable after you’ve done these 3 things, move on, because she’s not interested. 

She’s Leaning Into You

Leaning in is the physical embodiment of chasing.

She is chasing you, and she wants you, if she’s leaning in.

This, along with physical proximity and the next two signs, is a sign she’s really into you. So keep moving the interaction forward, but keep playing it cool.

The advice my mentor  Jason Capital gave me was “Whenever in doubt, always lean out”

If we lean out, we’re showing women physically that we’re not chasing them and that we don’t need their approval and validation.

But by leaning out, we’re also giving women the opportunity to lean in and chase us. So we are the prize.

Play it cool, lean out, and don’t get desperate or start getting supplicating.

Let her keep putting effort into you, but move the interaction forward so that you guys can hook up.

If You Haven’t Met Her Yet

If you spot a gorgeous woman while you’re waiting by the bus stop, and she notices you and starts moving to closer to you and hovers around you for a few seconds, she’s interested.

She’s putting herself out there and giving you an opportunity to start a conversation with her, because she wants to meet you.

She’s most likely won’t start the conversation (however in some very rare cases it does happen), as she wants to avoid rejection.

Instead, all she’s doing is making it easy for you to take initiative and start the conversation with her.

She won’t stay close to you forever.

She’ll hover around you for a few seconds, 2 to 5 seconds at best, and if you don’t take action, she’ll move away again.

It’s very subtle, but it’s a very easy way for her to avoid rejection, because she simple moved closer to you and gave you an opportunity to talk to her. 

If she’s doing this, she wants you to open her and talk to her.

So don’t disappoint her.

She Tries Hard To Impress You

This is the icing on the cake.

If she’s trying hard to impress you, and she’s:

• Listing all her achievements
• Listing all the amazing things she’s done
• Name dropping all the cool places she’s been to, etc..

She thinks you’re an attractive high value guy.

She feels that she has to to win you over by impressing you –

In order for you to like her. 

In other words, she feels you’re outside her league and have higher SMV (Sexual Market Value) then her.

Read Next: How To Be More Attractive (And Make Women Want You By Increasing Your Sexual Market Value) (Coming Soon)

NEVER Make This Mistake
(She Will Lose Interest FAST)

If she’s trying hard to impress you, NEVER tell her she doesn’t need to impress you because she’s:

• Smart
• Gorgeous 
• Amazing,
• Perfect
• ________ (Insert Reason)

Because she thought you were a hard to get guy…

If you say she doesn’t need to impress you…

She will instantly change her opinion about you and think you’re an easy to get guy.

She’ll think she’s already won you over.

And she will lose interest FAST.

Saying something like that is very NEEEDY, and DESPERATE. This makes woman friendzone you and run the other way.

I made this mistake when I was 18, and she went from chasing me hard to losing interest fast and friend zoning me in a mere 10 minutes.

Needless to say, don’t make the same mistake.

What Women Really Want

Remember, woman want what they can’t easily have.

Just let her be, and let her impress you, and let her do the work. 

All you have to do is sit back and relax – and continue leading the interaction forward. 

Maybe give her a little approval and reward her with short compliments like “That’s nice”, “That’s interesting”, “I like that” every now again.

The Truth: In the dating world, women want to have the best man they can get.

Women want to date up, they want to date men who have higher SMV than themselves. 

Women never want to date men with the same SMV or lower SMV then themselves, if they have access to dating men with a higher SMV then themselves.

Women will only date men with the same or lower SMV than themselves if these men are only dating options she has left

Either because:

• The men with higher SMV  rejected her or no longer want her…
• Or because she’s getting older and her SMV is declining…
• She’s had TOO many partners (which lowers her SMV). 

In other words, she’s going through a list, and who ever is unavailable at the top of her list, she will go for the next guy underneath. 

She Uses Any Excuse ⁠To Get Physical With You And “Accidently” Touch You ⁠

Is she “accidently” touching you ⁠while she’s speaking with you, or trying to feel your muscles if you’re athletic?⁠ 

Is she “accidently” touching you on your arms, back, legs, and intimate places near your crotch?

If she is touching you at every excuse she can get, she’s all over you.

She isn’t just interested.

She’s got the hots for you and is ready to hook up.

Take the lead, and isolate her (find a place near by) where you two can hook up.

She’s Breathing Very Heavily Around You 

She’s Feeling Turned On

If she’s in your personal space, breathing super heavy around you (you can literally hear her breathing), and her pupils are dilated, it means she’s super horny and turned ON.

It means she is ready to hook up with you.

So you need to take lead and isolate her so you two can hook up.

This out of all the signs we’ve gone through, is the most powerful indicator of interest a women can ever show you.

But you need to act fast, because the opportunity window will close if you don’t take action. 

She won’t be horny for 4 hours, you got a limited time window.

You need to get her out of the club or venue, and take her to your place or her place or anywhere private where there aren’t people (like the beach or the park at night if it’s near by).

Often, the nearest place is the best place.

I go more in depth on how to do this in my guide “How To Get Laid FAST”

She Plays With Her Hair Around You (A Lot)

Women will often play with their hair if they like a guy.

They will do this while he’s talking, or even when she’s talking.

But if she doesn’t play with her hair, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. This is just a bonus sign, that’s very easy to notice.

She Keeps Checking You Out

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

If she’s checking you out – she’s interested.

Especially if she’s glancing at you for  a long period of time (anything more than 2 or 3 seconds) – she’s interested.

It’s the perfect time to open her and start a conversation with her.

She’s giving you an approach invitation (signal to start talking to her), so she will be happy if you start a conversation with her.

You can  use the fact that she’s checking you out as an opener to start the conversation:

This sets up a great chase dynamic – that you’re the prize, and she’s the one chasing you.

She Compliments You (A Lot)

If she’s complimenting you a lot, she’s very interested.

Especially if she’s giving you compliment after compliment.

If she’s constantly complimenting you every few minutes:

• “You’re so smart”
• “You’re so confident”
• “You’re cute” or “You’re good looking” or “You’re handsome”
• “You’re so kind and caring”
• “You’re so passionate” etc…

And other compliments of that nature,

She’s very interested and into you, and you should take the lead and progress the interaction forward.

If she’s just giving you a few compliments here and there, she’s interested in you, but not over the top about you like the girl above who can’t stop complimenting you.

The truth is: even shy girls will compliment you if they like you. Shy women always compliment me about my confidence. My ex wanted to know my secret to being confident.

But some women won’t compliment you much, either because:

• They’re not interested, or because
• They have a big ego and are actively trying not to show to much interest (to avoid showing too much interest)

I personally would not date a women with a big ego.

She Asks You Lots Of Questions ⁠About Yourself 

(She’s Showing INTEREST In You)

Interested women will ask you lots of questions about yourself.

And not just surface level questions. But deeper more personal questions.

For example, they won’t just ask you what job or hobby you do.

They’ll ask you if you like it, what you like about it, how did you get into it, what made you want to start doing it, your future plans with it etc…. 

They will go beyond small talk and ask you How, Why and What type of questions.

Why?

Because they’re curious about you and want to know more about you.

Even if you just met her, if you come across as a confident, charismatic guy, who’s positive and outgoing, women will often do this.

They’ll be drawn to you, thoughts and questions will spring into her mind:

• “I bet he’s got a lot going for him. What’s he got going on?”
• “Why is this guy so confident and so sure of himself?”
• “This guy is so happy, he must be happy with his life and what he’s doing.”

Why? Because you’ll stand out from the crowd of boring men with nothing going on in their life.

Read Next: How To Develop Bulletproof Confidence (And Feel Confident 24/7)

Even if you’re a shy guy, quiet guy, women will ask you lots of questions about yourself if they like you.

On the other hand…women who aren’t interested in you will NEVER ask you lots of questions about yourself. 

They might ask you a few surface level questions (to be polite), but nothing more. They will also use a certain voice tone….

She Opens Up To You

If a girl genuinely likes you, she will open up to you about herself. 

She’ll tell you:

• Stories about herself,
• Personal secrets,
• Her past,
• Future plans,
• Her dreams,
• What she’s passionate about, etc…

She’ll be willing to answer more personal questions and go beyond small talk into deeper conversation.

Women will do this a lot if you come across as an open minded non judgmental guy. 

How To Come Across As Open Minded And Non Judgemental:

• Smile,
• Have open body language
• Don’t put other people down
• Don’t make harsh judgemental comments.

Read The Full Guide: How To Be Non Judgmental

On the other hand….

Women who aren’t interested in you:

• Won’t move with you past small talk and
• Will try keep conversations short.

Uninterested women will often:

• Try break rapport (end the social interactions)
• Act disinterested and
• Not contribute much to the conversation.

Future Pacing

She Talk About Making Plans Together 

Does she future pace and talk about you guys doing things together in the future? Because if she is, she’s definitely interested.

She’s imagining a future with you, and wants to date you, get together with you and make you her boyfriend. 

Think about it.

If she’s talking about you guys:

• Going to the beach together,
• Travelling around the world together,
• Driving around together,
• Going to her place or yours and watching a movie or cooking some food and having
• Dinner and drinks,  etc…

These are things couples and people who are in a romantic relationship do.

If she’s future pacing, she wants you as a boyfriend.

Especially if she’s showing other signs of attraction as well, you know she wants to do more than hook up with you – she wants to fall in love with you and more than likely have a relationship.

If a girl doesn’t future pace, it doesn’t mean she’s not interested or attracted to you.  

If she’s showing the other signs of attraction, she’s interested in you.

This sign of interest is more of icing on the cake. 

It’s not a requirement. But if she’s showing it, it’s a delicious cherry on the top. 

She Speaks In A Higher Pitch And Seeking Rapport Voice Tonne 

Her voice tone is one of the biggest indicators if she’s interested in you.

If a girl likes you and is interested, she’ll talk in a softer, more feminine and higher pitched voice. Even if she has a naturally deeper voice.

Interested women will often use a seeking rapport voice tone, where her voice starts to get higher as she’s talking or asking a question.

Slightly interested women or polite women will often talk in a neutral voice tone, where the pitch stays the same and doesn’t go up or down.

While uninterested women will often talk in a deeper less feminine voice and use a breaking rapport voice tone, where her voice pitch gets lower as she’s talking. Even women with naturally more feminine voice will do this.

Jason Capital explains this well: