Body language makes up 93% of all communication alone.
Developing attractive body language will allow you to communicate with women more effectively and subtly, while putting in less effort…
Giving you more results, with less effort – making you appear smoother, high status, charming and more attractive.
Attractive body language will make you appear more masculine, confident, dominant and in control – which will make women more attracted to you from the get go and get you instant respect from men around you.
Attractive body language will let you come across as open minded and non judgemental – making women open up to you and have deeper and more intimate conversations and connections. It will also make women and people trust you more.
More high quality people will also approach you and start socializing with you.
All because of one thing – attractive body language.
In this guide, we’ll be looking at how to develop attractive body language, to instantly boost our attractiveness to women.
What Is Body Language?
Body Language convers all types of non verbal communication.
- Your Posture
- Facial Expressions
- Speed You Move At
- How You Stand (Arms Crossed Or Open, Hands In Pockets Or Out, etc…)
- How You Sit (Arms Crossed Or Open Arms, Legs Crossed or Uncrossed, etc…)
- Leaning In Or Out
- And Even What Direction Your Feet And Body Are Facing When You Talk To Someone
However, certain types of body language make you instantly more attractive, while other types make you less attractive.
We’ll cover these in just a second.
Why Developing Attractive Body language Is Key For Success With Dating And Life
Body language makes up 55% of all communication in social interactions.
Our voice & vocal tonality (the way we say things)
make up 38%.
While what we actually say accounts for only 7% of all communication.
In other words, 93% of all communication is nonverbal (and only 7% is verbal).
It’s not what we say that matters, but how we say it with our body language, voice and vocal tonality, that’s important.
How we present and express ourselves non verbally.
Therefore, to master our social skills and boost our results with our dating lives, we need to focus heavily on developing attractive body language & vocal tonality.
Attractive Body Language Secrets For Men
Open Grounded Body Language
Legs shoulder width apart, chest out, shoulders back, back straight and breathing deep into your stomach is going to ground you and make you feel & appear calm & confident.
Photo credits: Vampire Diaries. Damon Salvatore is a really good character to emulate and learn from when it comes to body language.
Having good posture also helps you speak properly and project your voice from your diaphragm, to have a deep and powerful masculine & engaging voice.
Cutting out fidgeting, nervous ticks and random hand playing and replacing it with being calm and still when we are standing and looking around or listening will also make us feel calm & confident.
Standing still because we have nothing to prove (to anyone).
Making yourself comfortable wherever you are – whenever you enter a room or a new situation is key.
Making yourself feel at home and comfortable first – by stopping at the door as you step in, taking the environment in slowly, and then walking into the room slowly at your own pace with good posture & attractive body language is gonna make you stand out like a rockstar.
You’ll stand out from the sea of men with slouching shoulders and forward neck (incorrect posture that screams “I don’t believe in myself”), and you’ll get more attention, and have woman be more attracted to you from the get go.
Standing up straight, legs shoulder width apart, with arms by your side, and good posture – moving slowly at your own pace –
Signals that you’re confident guy who believes in himself and what he’s doing –
Who owns who he is unapologetically, is proud of himself – who he is, who he is becoming.
Woman are attracted to that.
You can develop good attractive posture by training your NECK, mid back muscles, traps &
rhomboids with pull ups and shoulder shrugs, and other body weight & gym exercises.
These exercises will also help you get jacked and build an attractive physique women love.
Avoid crossing your arms and closed body language:
Having your arms crossed can communicate that:
- We feel threatened or vulnerable (because the arms are covering the chest – where all our vital organs are); or
- We don’t approve or accept the person or situation in front of us – a.k.a – we are judgmental
The second one which makes it extremely hard to build trust and connection with women. If women feel we are judgmental, they will not open up to us emotionally and connect with us.
Embrace open body language (arms by your side, not crossed and taking up space). Open body language makes us appear non judgemental:
Having your hands make a triangle while you sit down is also a high status move and attractive body language:
Making sure feet are always wide apart – which is more attractive and makes you feel calm and in control. NEVER have your feet close together.
Overall:
- Have open grounded body language
- Good posture
- Moving slowly at your own pace
Signals that you’re non-reactive – that you are in control of your life.
You stand out from the crowd of men who rush into a room, trying to get out of it as quickly as they came in it – rushed in and stressed out – afraid of people LOOKING at them & what they might think.
Woman want to date a confident proactive man who is in control of his life that doesn’t let the opinions of others & things outside of him change who he is and what he’s gonna do.
Women will think “This guy knows what he wants. He’s hot.” when they see you implementing this advice.
Women crave this.
Looking From The Side
Straight on:
Looking from the side:
Which one is more attractive?
Answer: Looking from the side
Notice the feet are never 100% tilting towards the person he’s looking at, even in the more front on shots – at most he’s 3/4 tilted towards the viewer.
This is extremely attractive, as it communicates non neediness – that you have options with women and don’t depend on others. It communicates that you are invested in the conversation, but you may also have places to be.
When you start a conversation with a women, never face her fully with your feet – as this will make you come on too strong (showing too much interest) and scare her away (if you’re a masculine guy), and needy. Face towards her from the side like Damon in the photos above.
As women show more and more interest towards you, you can start to turn towards them more with your feet and body language.
Also notice how Damon’s chin in the photos is also slightly tilted down and eyes looking up. This is seductive eye contact.
Slow Movements
Most people go through life:
- Walking quickly, rushing through wherever they go.
- Moving their heads quickly to look around, usually at who just came through the door.
(Getting so easily distracted, as if what they were doing was so not important – basically communicating to women non verbally that the things happening around them are more important than what they were doing – extremely unattractive)
What you’re doing has to always be more important than what’s happening around you.
- Talking fast, rushing without pauses – like a machine gun that just doesn’t stop.
Talking fast can make us fell stressed out. Through state transfer, it can also make the people we’re interacting with feel stressed out.
Because through mirror neurons in our brains – what we feel we transfer onto others.
If we feel stressed out, we make others feel stressed out. If we feel calm, confident and happy, we make others feel calm, confident and happy around us.
- Most guys move around quickly as if they’re embarrassed and don’t want to be seen
- Everything they do is rushed – they sit down quickly, everything rushed and stressed out.
And It makes them look like they’re not in control. Like something outside of them is controlling them.
It also makes it look like they’re embarrassed and don’t want to be seen.
Both which are extremely unattractive to woman.
Woman Love:
- A man who’s in control of his life.
- A man who is proud of who he is
Instead do this:
It’s the quickest, easiest, most powerful fix any guy could make in 2 seconds:
Cut the speed of every movement you make IN HALF,
Now
- Standing up from a chair? Do it twice as slow.
- Sitting down? Do it twice as slow.
- Moving your head to look around – do it twice as slow?
- Looking over your right shoulder to see what hot girl walked in the room? Do it twice as slow.
- Walking around– do it twice as slow – move at your own pace.
Everything you do, make it a calm controlled and deliberate movement.
Do it at your own pace. At a pace that feels comfortable for you.
You’re going to have to consciously be thinking about this for a little while before it becomes a habit, but I’m gonna go ahead and say that this might be the most important thing you can take away from this article.
Implement this – add this one small change into your lifestyle.
Because It’s going to make a BIG difference for you and I want you to experience it.
And number 3, the last big juicy tip:
Lean Back, Lean Out
My mentor always used to say “Whenever In Doubt, Lean Out”
Men who lean in come across as needy and seeking validation from the women they talk to. Non verbally, leaning in communicates chasing – which is a big turn off to women.
Let’s look at Chris Pine.
Leaning In:
Leaning Out:
Which pictures did he come accross as needy and seeking validation?
Answer: Leaning in – especially the first two.
Which pictures did he come across as more calm, relaxed and in control?
Answer: Leaning Out
The truth is:
Chris is a pretty attractive guy. Most guys and women consider him a 10 out of 10 looks wise.
But when he was leaning in, he came across as needy, seeking validation and approval – he came off as less in control and less attractive.
When he was leaning out, he came across powerful, dominant, calm, and in control.
He came across as non needy and non reactive. Like he didn’t need validation or approval. Like he didn’t need anything or anyone. He came across as more attractive.
And this is a very attractive guy. So if leaning in vs leaning out makes such a difference to how needy and socially attractive he comes across…
It makes a huge impact for me, you and all of us.
The Golden Rule:
Lean out and lean back when you’re talking to girls. Don’t lean in.
If you’re standing up – lean out. If you’re sitting down – lean back.
It shows you are non-reactive, non-needy, and non-supplicating.
Needy guys looking for approval and validation from women lean in.
Attractive individuals like us who don’t need validation from women lean out.
We don’t need validation – because we give ourselves validation by going after the things we want and prioritizing ourselves, our goals, our wants and our needs and putting these first.
Hierarchy Of Prioritization: Prioritize yourself first to develop sky high self esteem, not depend on women for validation, be non needy and charming, and reach your full potential with life and women.
The needy guys leaning in are chasing – investing and putting more effort into a woman than a women is putting into them.
And woman are not attracted to needy men who put invest lots of time, effort and energy into them –they are extremely turned off by neediness.
They friendzone these men hard. And use them as door mats or SIMPS to make a full time income on Only Fans.
The Problem: These needy men give women too much validation – through their body language and what they say.
Women don’t feel the need to put in any effort to win these men over and get validation from them – because they’re already being given all the validation they want and need.
If men give women too much validation, and women don’t have to put time, effort and energy into a man to get validation – a.k.a, they don’t have to work to earn a man’s validation – they lose interest FAST.
The solution: Lean Out
But by leaning out and leaning back, the girls will start leaning in and chasing us – because we’re not leaning in and giving them all the validation they want.
Women will start to lean in and put more effort into the interaction.
In the hopes that, if she puts more effort, she can get the validation and approval we’re not giving her. However, by doing this, she is the one putting in more effort and pursuing us.
And what better way to make a girl chase and pursue you than to make her chase you physically and set up the dynamic that she’s the one pursuing us.
There’s simply is no better way.
“Whenever in doubt, always lean out”.
And it works every time. It makes women chase.
